LGBT Community and whether they should have families?!?!

"You wanna have kids? But you're gay. It's not possible."

At work I got into a somewhat heated conversation with a co-worker about whether or not people within the LGBT community should be allowed to have/foster or adopt children. What started off as a general conversation soon took a veer down a homophobic, prejudice and bigoted road. Now I am by no means someone who thinks that everyone should agree with my opinion on the subject. However I do think you sometimes need to take into consideration who you are talking to before you spout off such comments as...

"Children are impressionable, if they are raised by two parents of the same sex they will think it is right. I'd rather a child have a Mum and a Dad or just a more or just a Dad....but not two Mums or two Dads."

 So let me get this straight a child or children who could have a loving home with a gay couple or a lesbian couple should be penalized and left in a care home as living with a gay or lesbian couple will make them gay? There's so many questions to that one question alone

1.  How does your parent's sexuality influence yours? Did it influence your sexuality?!
2. What kind of STUPID are you to believe that children can't receive the same sort of love, care and security from parents of the same sex? Did you experience it to know what to expect from it?
3. When was it EVER proven that having parents of the same sex can impact your life negatively? Did you go to school and see how it negatively  impacted someone? Was it you?!
4. Why are you trying to convince someone who is a part of the LGBT community of your bigoted thoughts and opinions? 

 The issue is when arguing with some one that is that close-minded you might as well just be arguing with a brick wall. He has the audacity to tell me that children need the stability of a mother and a father as it's the right thing to do, it's the only way the reproductive system works, how the bible doesn't agree with it. At that point I wanted to point out the other things that the bible says is wrong that people do everyday for instance the fact that he lives with his girlfriend and they are not yet married, but that seemed irrelevant as all this so called 'Saint' can see is that what my future may hold is always going to be wrong as I chose to be a lesbian and live that lifestyle and that  I should not impose that on a child or children who don't have a choice in the matter. I'd like him to see teenage me and see when she chose to be a lesbian and how it must have been such an easy decision that I came flaunting out of the closet singing "I'm coming out, I want the world to know. Got to let it show." When the reality is that most if not all lesbian/gay/bi/transgender people have a hard time coming out and that for everyone of us that comes out there are a few who then are beaten up, tortured, killed or worse still end up committing suicide.

"You chose to be gay, children would not chose to have two Mums or two Dads. It's not right."

Obviously my counterargument was that straight people have gay children all the time, how comes the 'heterosexual family unit' didn't influence the children into being straight and leading a 'normal heterosexual life' with 2.5 children? I myself am from a family with both a Mother and Father yet out of the three children they have I am a lesbian, clearly my parents must not have influenced me as much as they did my older sister and younger brother. Let me just point out to people with their close minded views if you're not LGBT tolerant or accepting then when voicing such hurtful and ludicrous comments you should first think 'Are they gonna understand it from my bigoted point of view?' Since you are clearly talking to a female who you know full well is a lesbian who intends on having children with her girlfriend who is to be her future wife you should probably not engage the conversation any further you should instead agree to disagree. Nope in 2016 where marriage is legal both for gay and straight couples you instead want to try argue your case. The icing on the cake however is

when others were brought into the discussion and everyone seemed to be in favor of it as their best friend, sister, brother, cousin is in a same sex relationship and bringing up children who see it as nothing different to the children who have a Mother and a Father. He seems to have missed all the straight couples who have children that they put up for adoption as they don't want them, or have abortions as a form of contraception. Gay and lesbian couples never accidentally have children so for them to go through IVF treatment, surrogacy or adoption means they are in it for the long haul, every birthday, school event and graduation just as the straight couples who love and want the best for their children.
 In this day and age where same sex parents is even fully recognized on television without it seeming as an insult to the LGBT community just shows how far the generations have come and how they have learnt to become more accepting rather than just hate something they do not understand. The television show The Foster's features two Mum's bringing up both biological and adopted children, nowhere does any of the children resent the fact that they have two mum rather than a mother and father instead they acknowledge that when they are scared, sad, happy, excited, lost it's there two Mums they can rely on.

"DNA doesn't make a family, love does" Lena Foster, The Fosters.

Even  before gay marriage was legalized the television was portraying what would eventually be reality, through Susan and Carol getting married on 'Friends', Sophie and Sian being engaged and almost married on 'Coronation Street', Mitchell and Cameron both married and fathers to their precious adopted daughter Lily on 'Modern Family'. We the viewing audience also witnessed Spencer and Ashley 'South of Nowhere' go through all kind of hardships to finally end up together with the support of both of their families but

not without the ridiculous prejudices of some of their parents first. They also went through ridiculous measure to even air some of the scenes  as a television couple, the whole not being to lie on a bed together in a loving embrace or anything sexual for that matter as they were a couple of the same sex, whereas now we see lesbians/gay men cuddled up under the sheets together. Both with 'South of Nowhere' and 'Coronation Street' the two young teenage lesbian couples were only allowed to be intimate with one another in ways that would not always involve the usual kissing and cuddling instead they had to convey their love through, hugs, hand holding, longing looks. So not only are you trying to portray that you may have just realized that you're gay/lesbian you're also not meant to show it through kisses as it may offend some people viewing it. So with Sian and Sophie they were only able to kiss and what not in episodes that aired after 8.00 p.m whilst the straight teen couples in the show could kiss and what not during any of the episodes, which seemed to anger and confuse some of the staff but there was nothing they could do about it at the time.
We the viewing audience also witnessed through 'The L Word' not only what would have been a lesbian wedding between Shane and Carmen but also a legalized lesbian adoption with Bette and

Tina being the adoptive Mums to their daughter Angelica. Now we see a vast amount of celebrities having children or fostering/adopting children. So far none of the children of same sex parents have been treated any differently to how the children with a Mum and Dad are treated. Also from what is portrayed through both the media and social media they do all the same things and love their children just as much as any other set of parents do. The likes of Neil Patrick Harris, Elton John, Sara Gilbert  just go to show how much love and joy they share with their children who seem to unfazed by the fact that they have gay or lesbian parents as it's the norm to them and not something that can or will influence them into being either gay or straight in the future.